There is Nothing Wrong With you: Embracing Life as an Adult with ADHD

At times, we encounter unusual and unexpected challenges in our lives. For some individuals, the revelation of an ADHD diagnosis in their later years can surprise them. I was diagnosed last year at age 57, and it rocked my world. For most of my life, I was convinced that something was wrong with me or that I was too damaged to have a good life. Finding out that I had ADHD (a textbook case) brought up as many questions as answers.

While it might be a daunting revelation, it's essential to remember that you are not alone. Dealing with ADHD requires a unique approach and a willingness to embrace change. This blog post offers guidance on navigating this new chapter in your life, promoting self-awareness, acceptance, and a renewed sense of empowerment.

Seek Professional Assessment

The initial step in dealing with an ADHD diagnosis is obtaining a professional assessment from a qualified healthcare provider, preferably a neuropsychologist or psychiatrist experienced in adult ADHD. A proper diagnosis ensures that you receive the appropriate support and treatment tailored to your specific needs. This assessment may include interviews, questionnaires, and a review of your medical history.

Acknowledge Your Emotions

Receiving an ADHD diagnosis later in life can trigger a whirlwind of emotions - confusion, relief, frustration, or even grief for the years lived without knowing. It's crucial to recognize and validate these emotions. Seeking support from friends, family, or a therapist can provide an outlet to discuss your feelings and develop coping strategies. Writing a journal or blog that tracks your emotions and memories can be revelatory. So many female ADHD-ers were unaware until recently that adults can have it, not just children. When I was a child, the general consensus was that ADHD only affected little boys.

Educate Yourself about ADHD

Understanding ADHD and its impact is empowering. Take the time to research and educate yourself about the condition, its symptoms, and the potential challenges and strengths associated with it. Your brain just works differently; it’s not damaged. There are many reputable resources, books, and online platforms dedicated to adult ADHD that can provide valuable insights and coping strategies.

Embrace a Multimodal Approach to Treatment

ADHD treatment typically involves a multimodal approach that may include medication, therapy, lifestyle changes, and self-help strategies. Discuss your options with a healthcare professional to tailor a treatment plan that aligns with your personal preferences and values. Changing your diet and adding exercise can be helpful. Seek out ways to be kind to yourself: try a yoga class, take a walk outside in the sun, listen to music.

Build Supportive Relationships

Establishing a support system is vital in navigating life with ADHD. Share your diagnosis with trusted friends, family members, or support groups to foster understanding and empathy. Having a support network can offer encouragement during challenging times and celebrate your successes. Prepare yourself for skepticism and outright denial from others. They are ignorant of ADHD as you once were. Educate them.

Cultivate Mindfulness and Self-Awareness

Practicing mindfulness and self-awareness can be particularly beneficial for individuals with ADHD. Techniques like meditation, deep breathing, and yoga can help manage stress and improve focus. Regularly assessing your emotions, behaviors, and thoughts can provide valuable insights into your ADHD challenges, empowering you to implement strategies to manage them effectively. Clear the clutter in your home or work area will help you clear the clutter in your head.

Implement Time Management Strategies

Time management can be especially challenging for individuals with ADHD. Utilize tools like calendars, planners, and smartphone apps to stay organized and set reminders for important tasks. Breaking down complex tasks into smaller, manageable steps can make them less overwhelming. Make a list, then mark the items off as you finish them. Abracadabra: you accomplished your goal!

Celebrate Your Strengths

ADHD is often accompanied by unique strengths, such as creativity, resilience, and hyperfocus on areas of interest. Recognizing and celebrating these strengths can boost your self-esteem and help you capitalize on your unique abilities.

A diagnosis of ADHD in your adult years marks the beginning of a new chapter in your life - one of self-discovery, growth, and acceptance. Remember that ADHD does not define you; it is just one aspect of who you are. By seeking professional help, building a support system, and implementing coping strategies, you can navigate the challenges and embrace the opportunities that come with ADHD. With self-awareness, education, and a positive outlook, you can thrive and make the most of this new phase in your journey. Embrace your authentic self, and let your strengths shine through as you embrace life with ADHD.

How Employers Can Support Neurodivergent Employees

 Employers can make the most out of their neurodivergent employees by creating an inclusive and supportive work environment that values diversity and accommodates different ways of thinking and processing information. Here are some strategies to consider:

1. Foster Awareness and Understanding: Educate all employees, including managers and team members, about neurodiversity, its strengths, and challenges. Promote empathy, understanding, and acceptance of neurodivergent individuals, dispelling stereotypes and misconceptions.
2. Provide Reasonable Accommodations: Work with neurodivergent employees to identify and implement reasonable accommodations to help them thrive and may include adjustments to the work environment, flexible scheduling, providing written instructions, or using assistive technologies.
3. Capitalize on Strengths and Talents that neurodivergent individuals bring to the workplace: They often excel in attention to detail, pattern recognition, analytical thinking, creativity, and problem-solving. Align their roles and responsibilities to leverage these strengths effectively.
4. Offer Clear Communication and Instructions: Provide clear and concise written and verbal communication. Use visual aids, bullet points, and structured formats to convey information effectively. Avoid figurative language, sarcasm, or ambiguous instructions, as these can be challenging for some neurodivergent individuals.
5. Embrace Different Work Styles: Allow flexibility in work styles and preferences. Some neurodivergent employees may be more productive in quiet environments, while others may benefit from collaborative or sensory-friendly spaces. Embrace diverse work styles and provide options to accommodate individual needs.
6. Promote Mentoring and Collaboration: Encourage mentoring programs and facilitate collaboration between neurodivergent employees and their colleagues. Pairing neurodivergent individuals with mentors or teammates who can provide guidance, support and help navigate social interactions can enhance their professional development and integration within the team.
7. Please Provide Feedback and Growth Opportunities: Regularly offer constructive feedback to neurodivergent employees, focusing on their strengths and areas for improvement. Offer training and development opportunities tailored to their needs, enabling them to grow professionally and reach their full potential.
8. Foster a Supportive Community: Foster a culture of inclusion and support by promoting employee resource groups or affinity networks focusing on neurodiversity. These communities can provide a space for sharing experiences, offering peer support, and raising awareness throughout the organization.
9. Create Sensory-Friendly Spaces: Designate areas or provide accommodations that cater to sensory sensitivities. Consider lighting, noise levels, and comfortable workstations to create an environment that minimizes distractions and sensory overload.
10. Encourage Open Dialogue: Foster an environment where neurodivergent employees feel comfortable sharing their needs, challenges, and ideas. Encourage open dialogue, active listening, and mutual respect among team members.

By implementing these strategies, employers can create an inclusive workplace that supports the strengths and talents of neurodivergent employees, leading to improved job satisfaction, increased productivity, and a diverse and innovative workforce.

Job Seeking While Neurodivergent: Embracing Strengths and Overcoming Challenges

Job seeking can be a challenging endeavor for anyone, but for individuals who are neurodivergent, it can present unique hurdles and considerations. Neurodivergent individuals have different brain wiring that encompasses a range of conditions, such as autism, ADHD, dyslexia, and more. However, with a proactive approach, self-awareness, and understanding from employers, neurodivergent individuals can thrive in the workforce. Here are some strategies and tips to empower neurodivergent job seekers to find fulfilling employment.

Embracing Neurodivergent Strengths

Neurodivergent individuals possess unique strengths that can be assets in the workplace. These strengths often include:

• Attention to detail

Many neurodivergent individuals excel at attention to intricate details and spotting patterns that others might miss. This skill can be advantageous in roles that require precision, data analysis, or problem-solving.

• Creative thinking

Neurodivergent individuals often think outside the box and bring fresh perspectives. This creativity can be valuable in industries requiring innovation, design, or strategic planning. 

• Hyperfocus and determination

When neurodivergent individuals find a task or topic that captures their interest, they can exhibit remarkable focus and dedication. This intense focus can lead to exceptional outcomes and achievements in specialized roles.

Building a Support Network

Navigating the job-seeking process can be overwhelming, but having a support network can provide encouragement, guidance, and practical assistance. Consider the following avenues for support:

• Disability Employment Services

Contact disability employment services in your region that specialize in supporting neurodivergent individuals. They can provide career counseling, resume assistance, interview preparation, and connect you with inclusive employers.

• Online Communities

Join online communities and forums specifically tailored for neurodivergent individuals seeking employment. These communities often offer valuable insights, tips, and connections to job opportunities. 

• Professional Networks

Attend industry events, join professional associations, and participate in networking activities. Building connections with like-minded professionals can open doors to job opportunities and provide mentorship.

• Self-Advocacy and Disclosure

Deciding whether to disclose your neurodivergence to potential employers is a personal choice. However, being open and proactive about your unique abilities and any reasonable accommodations you may require can enhance the hiring process. Consider the following:

• Research and Prepare

Familiarize yourself with your rights and the legal protections afforded to individuals with disabilities in the workplace. Understand how accommodations can support your success.

• Highlight Your Strengths

During interviews and your application materials, emphasize your strengths and how they align with the job requirements. Showcase relevant accomplishments and experiences to demonstrate your capabilities.

• Requesting Accommodations

If you require accommodations to perform at your best, don't hesitate to request them. Explain how specific accommodations can support your productivity and contribute to the organization's success.

• Developing Coping Strategies

Neurodivergent individuals often face sensory issues or executive functioning and transition difficulties. Implementing coping strategies can help overcome these obstacles.

• Time Management

Develop a structured schedule or use productivity tools to help manage time effectively. Break tasks into smaller, manageable chunks to stay organized and focused.

• Self-Care and Stress Management

Practice self-care techniques that work for you, such as engaging in hobbies, exercise, meditation, or seeking support from therapists or counselors. Managing stress levels is crucial during the job-seeking process.

• Disclosure Selectivity

While disclosure can be beneficial, choose the timing and level of exposure that feels comfortable for you. You can discuss the matter with supportive individuals, such as mentors or trusted colleagues, who can offer guidance and understanding.

Job seeking can be challenging, but being neurodivergent should not hinder one's ability to find fulfilling employment. By recognizing and embracing their strengths, building a supportive network, advocating for themselves, and implementing effective coping strategies, neurodivergent individuals can navigate the job-seeking process with confidence. Employers increasingly recognize the value of neurodiversity in the workplace, paving the way for greater inclusivity and opportunities. Remember, you have unique talents and perspectives, and the right job awaits you.

I Am A Morning Person

I wake up almost every morning bubbling with energy, ready to start the day. My mind is full of ideas, so many that they all run together. My creativity and focus are most effective early in the morning, so I start my job at 6:30 am, when I know I can get the most work done. If I started working later, I would be scrambled and scattered and not anywhere nearly as productive.

My methylphenidate prescription has been raised a bit. We have a lot of training at work that requires me to focus on subjects that hold no allure for me whatsoever, but are very important to make my job run more smoothly, thus helping more students pay for their education. I definitely do not feel as panicked as before when I had meetings to endure.

My Ebay reselling side hustle is steaming along, but has added much more clutter to my already cluttered house. I don't want to become a hoarder.

The Finish Line

 I've completed all of my 36 TMS sessions and my depression has significantly improved. I feel now like I'm in a much better place to start exploring my ADHD more deeply. The anxiety still makes it difficult for me to focus or be still for long, so my Ritalin prescription has been raised a bit.

If I can harness the motivation I'm feeling and direct my focus, I'll be able to accomplish more in the way of clearing clutter, cleaning, etc. For now though, I'm going to enjoy not feeling stressed out and miserable.

Week Nine

 

My TMS sessions are tapering off. There were three treatments last week and this week there will be only two. I feel generally pretty good, although the anxiety is still high. I'm not constantly sad.

I woke up at 3am this morning with my mind racing as usual; just random thoughts, nothing linear or memorable. I just think of 8 million different things at the same time, until I get overwhelmed. Sometimes a thought or idea will come to me and I'll want to remember it. The logical solution would be to write it down, but if I wake enough to write it down, I won't be able to go back to sleep. It's as if I have an intense need to get things out of my head, just in case one of the thoughts is a good idea worth pursuing. The mental faucet is turned on full blast and never really shuts off completely. It's exhausting.

My Ebay sales have slowed down but shopping for inventory has been extremely enjoyable. Having that hobby has been good for me, I think. I can concentrate on something tangible other than my normal scrambled thinking. Housework was accomplished this past weekend, so I feel kind of proud of myself. I "got things done" which is normally not my state of affairs.

Morning Has Broken

 This week, I will start to taper off on the TMS sessions; I have only 3 this week. I've been missing the sessions on Mondays, usually because I rarely sleep well on Sunday nights. Anxiety for the approaching work week keeps me from resting. Once the week starts and it's business as usual, my sleep is much better.

I feel pretty good this week. I still have minor depressed episodes, but they don't last for day like before. I'm starting an Ebay reselling hobby which is very enjoyable. Knowing that I have something interesting to do after work helps me concentrate and focus better during the day. My anxiety level is still too high, but it has gotten somewhat better.

I believe the TMS treatments have worked. I don't know how long it will last, so I'll make hay while the sun shines. I can get a lot of stuff done. If feeling this way is "normal", I try not to think of how much more I could have accomplished, had I been diagnosed ADHD as a child and received the proper accommodations. I just try to focus on what all I will accomplish in the future.